Wednesday, January 22, 2014

Do We Put Too Much Emphasis on Romance?

With Valentine's Day just around the corner, I've been wondering something: Do people our age put too much emphasis on romance? And could doing so be the demise of our love affairs?

My grandparents have been married to one another for almost sixty-five years. Not long ago, I sat down with them and asked what their secret is to staying married for so long was.  And you know what? Not once did they mention a regular date night or making sure that each individual carved out special time for themselves. Instead they told me that marriage is hard work.  They told me that the entire wedded terrain is lumpy and bumpy and filled with gigantic peaks and valleys.  They said there will be days you can't stand to look at one another, and days when you won't be able to keep your hands to yourself.  They told me that children are demanding little lunatics, and that some nights you'll go to bed so tired that your bones ache and you won't even have enough energy to reach out and touch the person lying next to you.
They also said that the little moments in between (the ones we might be missing while we are off having a date) are what make it worth it. They think that couples today give up too quickly, want too much, are too bored, incredibly selfish and ungrateful for all we have. There is no such thing as 50/50.  Someone is always working harder and longer, and when we finally get that through our heads, that's when we'll start building the foundation for a marriage that lasts a lifetime.
What's the best advice anyone ever gave you on how to make a marriage last?  Also, do you believe in soul mates?


1 comment:

Erika Lee @ A Tiny Rocket said...

Aww I love this. My parents have been married nearly 40 years! yikes.. and I think Romance is good to indulge in but not be the magic key to success. oh and I do love V-day because its one of the few times a year my husband actually goes and gets me flowers.. he isn't one for surprises.. so I take what i get :)